When billionaires divorce

When dealing with high net worth and multimillionaires divorce matters a divorce attorney must make sure to employ the best possible experts as part of the legal team, this is especially so if the assets at stake run into millions. I was involved as the divorce attorney of a client in a recent matter where two British citizens divorced in South Africa with assets across the globe that ran into millions of rands. In matters such as these various expert witnesses may be employed to lead evidence on behalf of a party to the divorce proceedings, consisting of forensic auditors, valuers, art experts, industrial psychologists, child psychologists, immigration experts etc.

In this matter I was fortunate to work with one of Britton’s top leading Family Law Barristers Richard Todd QC who rendered an opinion on the division of the matrimonial assets in this divorce case as far as it relates to UK law. Richard is an Oxford scholar who won the Hugh Bellott Prize (Highest Placed in the Oxford University Public International Law Finals) and who obtained the highest awards available to a practising Silk: The Chambers & Partners “Family Law Silk of the Year “ and The Lawyer’s “Hottest Family Law QC”. Richard have given expert evidence of English law to the courts of Australia, Belgium, the Cayman Islands, the Channel Islands, Cyprus, France, Germany, Gibraltar, Hong Kong, India, Italy, New Zealand, South Africa, Spain and the USA and appeared in over 4000 matrimonial cases with a long list of report cases, needless to say the identity of former clients is confidential. However former clients include twelve Billionaires (Sterling) and two Oscar winning actors (plus another three who have been nominated).

In this matter the parties were married in England and subsequently immigrated to South Africa. In such a case the matrimonial property regime of England would apply to their marriage and English law would always apply to their marriage. In a case such as this and where the divorce is contested a South African court could divorce them but, the court would have to apply English Law. It is interesting to note that if a South African couple is on holiday in England and decides to get married, they would automatically marry in community of property and not according to English law.

The test is the husband’s domicile as at the date of the marriage, i.e. what country the husband considered to be his permanent home plus his mental intention to remain there indefinitely. Domicile is defined as the principal place of residence of an individual. This is determined primarily by intent.

Thus, if the husband regarded his place of domicile to be Cape Town at the time of the marriage, the parties would be married according to the laws of South Africa and not England and their type of marriage (matrimonial property regime) would be one in community of property. For the marriage to have been out of community of property, the parties would have had to enter into an antenuptial contract in South Africa before leaving for holiday. If they failed to do so, they would have to apply to court to register an antenuptial contract, postnuptially.

About the author:

Bertus Preller is a Divorce Attorney in Cape Town and has more than 20 years experience in most sectors of the law and 13 years as a practicing attorney. He specializes in Family law and Divorce Law at Abrahams and Gross Attorneys Inc. in Cape Town. Bertus is also the Family Law expert on Health24.com and on the expert panel of Law24.com and is frequently quoted on Family Law issues in newspapers such as the Sunday Times and Business Times and magazines such as Noseweek, You and Huisgenoot, and also appeared on SABC television on the 3 Talk TV show. His clients include artists, celebrities, sports people and high networth individuals. His areas of expertise are Divorce Law, Family Law, Divorce Mediation, Parenting Plans, Parental Responsibilities and Rights, Custody (care and contact) of children, same sex marriages, unmarried fathers rights, domestic violence matters, international divorce law, digital rights, media law and criminal law.

Email: bertus(@)divorceattorney.co.za

Divorce – Don’t play chess by using your children as pawns

DIVORCE – Don’t play chess by using your children as pawns

This world is rife of parents using their children as pawns in the dirty game of divorce or where children are born out of wedlock. We have all heard of the old saying “no maintenance no kids” or “you left me so you won’t see your kids”. Parents don’t realise the damage they are doing in using their children as a means to get back at the other parent.

By isolating or alienating the children from the other parent is damaging not only to the other parent but even more damaging to the children. As a family law attorney I have seen cases where one parent will go to immeasurable lengths to isolate the other parent from building a parental relationship with his/her children, thereby depriving the children in the process of the only stability they may have left.

So often you hear about the mother that lays sexual molesting charges, with no substance against the father simply in an attempt to isolate the father from having a relationship with the children or a mother obtaining a Domestic Violence interdict against a father simply to interdict the father from having a relationship with his children. Although it seems to be mostly women that play this deadly game, there are also fathers who use their children as pawns against the mother. Unfortunately in battles of this sort there are also attorneys who fuel the battles on behalf of their clients and who somehow lose sight of what the best interests of the child really means. Depriving the other parent of a relationship with his/her children is possibly one of the most devious methods to ruin a solid society.

In terms of section 33 (2) of the Children’s Act parents who experience difficulties in exercising their parental responsibilities and rights in respect of a child must, before seeking the intervention of a court, first seek to agree on a parenting plan. The section discourages co-holders of parental responsibilities and rights from approaching the court as a first resort when they experience difficulties in exercising those rights and responsibilities.  This section does not compel parents to enter into a parenting plan, it simply instructs them to attempt to agree on one. Looking at this section closely it seems that where one parent refuse to engage in such discussions the court may be approached for then an attempt to agree on a plan was made, even if it was doomed from the start.  Section 33(5) instructs a person to seek the assistance of a family advocate, social worker or psychologist, or mediation through a social worker or suitably qualified person in preparing a parenting plan. It is therefore clear that before approaching the court, a person must first seek such assistance. If the other party is not amenable to engage then obviously a court may be approached.

Section 35 of the Act criminalises the refusal to allow someone who has access or holds parental responsibilities and rights in terms of a court order or a parental responsibilities and rights agreement that has taken effect to exercise such access. It also criminalises prevention of the exercise such access. Punishment is either a fine or imprisonment of up to one year.

About the Author:

Bertus Preller is a Divorce Attorney in Cape Town and has more than 20 years experience in most sectors of the law and 13 years as a practicing attorney. He specializes in Family law and Divorce Law at Abrahams and Gross Attorneys Inc. in Cape Town. Bertus is also the Family Law expert on Health24.com and on the expert panel of Law24.com and is frequently quoted on Family Law issues in newspapers such as the Sunday Times and Business Times and magazines such as Noseweek, You and Huisgenoot, and also appeared on SABC television on the 3 Talk TV show. His clients include artists, celebrities, sports people and high networth individuals.

 

Bekende Egskeidings Prokureur Gee Raad

Dit is belangrik om die implikasies van die wyse waarop jy getroud is te verstaan, en as jy dit nie verstaan nie, vind dan uit by iemand wat aan jou kan verduidelik sodat jy dit behoorlik kan verstaan. Is jy getroud binne of buite gemeenskap van goedere? As jy is getroud binne gemeenskap van goedere, sal jy geregtig wees op 50% van die gemeenskaplike boedel en as jy is getroud buite gemeenskap van goedere met die aanwasbedeling, is jy geregtig op die helfte van die verskil van jou en jou gade se aanwas. As jy getroud is buite gemeenskap van goedere sonder die aanwasbedeling voor 1 November 1984, sal jy geregtig wees om te vra vir ‘n herverdeling van die bates, wat behels dat jy dalk in staat sal wees om 50% van die gesamentlike bates te eis, maar as jy getroud buite gemeenskap van goedere sonder die aanwasbedeling na 1 November 1984 sal jy net ‘n eis vir onderhoud kan instel onder sekere omstandighede.

  • Jy kan onder sekere omstandighede eis vir rehabiliterende onderhoud. Rehabiliterende onderhoud is waar een gade die ander vir ‘n vasgestelde tydperk maandeliks betaal, bv vir twee jaar of langer.
  • Onthou dat jy kan ‘n aansoek loods hangende die egskeiding om onderhoud, terwyl die egskeiding nog nie afgehandel is nie, in so ‘n aansoek kan jy ook eis dat jou gade ‘n bydrae maak tot jou regskoste.
  • Kry soveel finansiële inligting oor jou eggenoot moontlik, maak afskrifte van alle bankstate, kredietkaart state en maak ‘n lys van al die bates en laste, bronne van inkomste, ens.
  • Stel ‘n volledige begroting op van jou huidige maandelikse uitgawes en inkomste van jou en jou kinders. Dit kan die moeite werd wees om voorsiening te maak vir toekomstige uitgawes.
  • Jy kan ook aandring op die sessie van ‘n lewenspolis van jou gade om die betaling van maandelikse onderhoud te verseker.
  • Probeer om aan te bly in die gesamentlike woning vir solank as jy kan huis (as dit naby aan jou kinders se skool of werk is). Daar is ‘n gesegde in ons reg, dat besit 9 / 10 van die reg is. Om in die gesamentlike woning aan te bly, sal ook die situasie van die kinders stabiliseer, aangesien ‘n trek na ‘n nuwe bestemming ‘n baie traumatiese ervaring vir die kinders kan wees.
  • Onthou dat jy nie noodwendig die oordragkoste hoef te betaal vir ‘n eiendom wat aan jou oorgedra word in jou egskeiding nie. Daar is verskeie opsies met betrekking tot eiendom wat aan beide van julle behoort, byvoorbeeld deur dit te behou of te verkoop of die netto wins verdeel.
  • Sien toe dat die Skikkingsooreenkoms so opgestel word dat jy kan aandring op ‘n aftrekking van jou gade se salaris indien hy nie betaal nie.
  • Sorg dat jou egskeiding Skikkingsooreenkoms sou opgestel word om ‘n deel van enige bates wat jou eggenoot wegsteek en waarvan jy nie bewus is op datum van die egskeiding nie te bekom wanneer jy later daarvan uitvind.
  • Moet nie minder tevrede wees nie, baie vroue loop eenvoudig as gevolg van die emosionele druk met minder as waarop hulle geregtig is. Onthou dat egskeiding altyd ‘n sake-besluit is en die besluite wat jy maak nou ‘n definitiewe impak sal hê later in jou lewe.
  • Egskeiding kan ‘n langdurige proses wees en dit kan baie frustrerend en emosioneel dreinerend wees, dit neem tyd en strategiese beplanning.
  • Moenie verander prokureurs in die proses bloot as gevolg van jou eie frustrasie nie, soos hulle sê, die spel van ‘n egskeiding is soos’ n skaakspel.
  • Onthou dat jou eggenoot se bates sluit ook in aandeelhoudings in maatskappye, aftreefondse, pensioenfondse en selfs belasting terugbetalings.
  • Dink met jou kop en nie met jou hart.
  • Onthou om jou testament te verander.

The Long Term Effects of Divorce on Children

More and more scientific information is being accumulated about the long-term effects that a divorce has on children. Until quite recently, most of what we knew was about the immediate or the so-called short-term effects of divorce, but long-term studies are providing more insights about the effects of divorce on the formation of intimate relationships and marriages in adulthood.

The major finding that gets the most attention is the slightly increased likelihood that children of a divorce will also divorce one day.

One interesting new report on the long-term effects of divorce on intimate relationships was conducted in Finland and reported in the Journal of Family Psychology (2011). A group of scientists at the National Institute for Health and Welfare and the University of Helsinki conducted a 16-year follow-up study of 1471 teenagers in one Finnish community. Ulla Mustonen and colleagues were surveyed the intimate relationships of these adults at 32 years of age and the role that parent-child relationships may have played in their adult relationships.

In keeping with past research, they found that children with divorced parents were somewhat more likely to be separated or divorced in young adulthood. Additionally, young women whose parents divorced were also less likely to have been married. Surprisingly, parental divorce showed no predictive relationship with divorce for young men.

On the other hand, there were a number of important findings about the ways in which parental divorce really affected young women. Though parental divorce itself did have a direct effect on young women’s chances of divorce, the major effect of divorce on young women was the mother-daughter relationship in adolescence. Parental divorce tended to undermine the mother-daughter relationship; however, when a positive relationship was maintained, this resulted in better self-esteem and satisfaction with social support in young adulthood, which contributed to better intimate relationships.

This finding means that one of the key factors in fostering the long-term well-being of children of divorce is through strengthening positive parent-child relationships. For this study, a positive parent-child relationship was more important for women than men, but the importance of these adolescent relationships should not be overlooked as we think about programs and policies to foster the long-term health of children.

These findings highlight a key direction for future research on the effects of divorce on children. The mere finding that these children may be more at-risk of difficulties should no longer occupy so much of our attention. The important work is understanding the factors within relationships and family process that contribute to these outcomes and identifying opportunities to buffer the negative effects while building on the positive factors. Much progress in improving children’s well-being is possible and deserving of more attention.

Article appeared in Huffington Post

Antenuptial Contracts – The most important contract in your lifetime

The Antenuptial or Prenuptial Contract is certainly one of the most important documents that any person will sign in his/her lifetime, well that is if you decide to tie the knot and get married.  Antenuptial agreements are often seen as a cold, harsh and unromantic sign that one’s partner is planning on the relationship ending in doom. Some people have no issues with them and see them as valuable protection for both parties while others might go as far as to call of their wedding if the idea surfaces.

A major problem however is that people somehow disregard the importance of the Antenuptial Contract and many embark on a marriage without due cognisance of the repercussions that might follow at a later stage, especially when the marriage end in the big D – divorce. Somehow many people merely see the Antenuptial Contract as a formality, something that needs to be signed prior to the wedding day, without realising the consequences of such an important legal instrument. The problem is that the Bride and Groom, concentrates more on the wedding ceremony, the dress, the honeymoon etc. and leaves the Antenuptial contract for that late minute meeting with an attorney just before the wedding day.

No one goes into a marriage contemplating a divorce but when you consider that the Antenuptial Contract governs what will happen to your assets and liabilities on divorce or death, it makes lots of sense that considerable thought should be given to concluding it and that its contents should be fully understood by all parties concerned. Unfortunately many people are more drawn into the eyes of their spouse prior to the marriage than to the importance of the wording of a proper Antenuptial Contract.

Marriage in Community of Property

Where you did not conclude an Ante nuptial Contract prior to your wedding day, you will automatically marry in community of property. ‘In community of property’ means that everything the couple own, and their debts, from before their marriage are put together in a joint estate. And everything they earn or buy after their marriage is also part of this joint estate. Any money or possessions belonging to either of the spouses at the time of the marriage, or acquired by them at any time thereafter, cease to be the private property of the one person and become part of a joint estate in which each of the partners has an equal, undivided share.

On termination of the marriage, the husband and wife are each entitled to a half-share of the joint estate and they are jointly liable for any liabilities. A major disadvantage is that if one partner becomes insolvent, the other is protected only if he or she owns property that does not form part of the joint estate. Everything in the joint estate will be attached and sold off to pay any creditors.

Marriage out of Community of Property

Each spouse retains his or her own assets and liabilities whether acquired before or during marriage. There is no sharing of profits and losses. Both spouses have full and independent contractual capacity. Upon death or divorce, each spouse keeps control over their own assets.

This clearly gives parties absolute independence of contractual capacity and protects the estates of each party against claims by the other party’s creditors. There is no provision for any sharing whatsoever.  A party who contributed to the other party’s estate whether in cash or otherwise would have a heavy onus to prove that he or she was entitled to anything from that party’s estate on dissolution of the marriage.

Where one party stays at home to raise children and does not contribute financially towards the marriage and the other spouse works and accumulates assets, the former may find herself with nothing and no claim to the assets of the latter.

The marriage is governed by a contract known as an ante nuptial contract which is concluded by the parties before the marriage. If the marriage occurred after 1 November 1984, the contract had to specifically exclude the system of accrual. In the absence of this exclusion the rules of accrual will automatically apply.

Marriage out of Community of Property with Inclusion of the Accrual System

In most cases the accrual system is, perhaps, the fairest marriage system for the majority of couples. Before the introduction of the accrual system in 1984, if prospective spouses chose to be married out of community of property, there was no form of sharing between them of what was built up during the marriage. The accrual system was introduced to remedy this.

The Matrimonial Property Act 88 of 1984 brought with it the “accrual” system which permits a form of sharing, consistent with a primary objective of marriage, but permitting retention of each party’s independence of contract and ability to retain their own unique separate estates.

“Accrual” means increase. The accrual system is a form of sharing of the assets that are built up during the marriage. The underlying philosophy in respect of the accrual system is that each party is entitled to take out the asset value that he or she brought into the marriage, and then they share what they have built up together. One spouse’s property cannot be sold to pay the other’s creditors if the other becomes insolvent – in contrast to the case where the parties are married in community of property.

It is of utmost importance that a party wishing to enter into an Ante Nuptial Contract must fully understand what it is they are signing. It is for this reason that a standard form contract cannot be used, that consultations cannot be held over the phone or by means of email and that, unfortunately.

The important features of an accrual marriage are in essence the following:

  • Each party retains his or her own estate. Each party may accumulate assets and incur liabilities without interference from or assistance of the other spouse.  The estate of each party is determinable separately.
  • The monetary value of the smaller estate is subtracted from the monetary value of the larger estate, the difference is split, and the party having the larger estate pays half of the difference between the two estates to the party with the smaller estate.
  • At dissolution of the marriage, the estate of each party is calculated by listing all assets, listing all liabilities, subtracting liabilities from assets and arriving at a net asset value.
  • In practical terms this amounts to a similar division to a marriage in community of property.  However there are certain crucial factors of an accrual marriage which add complexity and much more freedom of choice. When drafting the Ante Nuptial Contract, the parties can each decide to exclude certain assets.  The effect of excluding an asset will be that it does not feature on the asset statement at dissolution of the marriage and is completely excluded from the calculation. Assets which are not properly described can cause huge problems when the executor or the divorce attorney tries to decide what to do with it in calculating the net accrual value.
  • To exclude either a specific asset, or a commencement value, or both (which must be separate and not derived from the same asset), can effectively ensure that couples share only what they choose to share and keep separate any item or items, or values, which they do not believe it fair to share (for example something acquired before the relationship commenced).Parties not wishing to exclude specific assets may exclude a certain sum of money which is the agreed equivalent of assets which they do not wish to share, and which is termed a “commencement value”.

Excluded from the Accrual

Certain property belonging to either the husband or the wife may not be taken into account when the accruals are worked out:

  • Any damages awarded to either spouse for defamation or for pain and suffering;Any inheritances, legacies or gifts that either spouse has received during the marriage, unless the parties have agreed in their antenuptial contract to include these or the donor has stipulated their inclusion;
  • A donation made by one spouse to the other. This is not taken into account as part of either the giver’s or the receiver’s estate, with the result that the giver cannot recover part of what he or she gave and the receiver need not return any of it.

Calculating the Accrual

The accrual is calculated by subtracting the net asset value of his/her estate at the commencement of marriage from the net asset value of his/her estate at dissolution of the marriage.

Example:

If spouse C had a net asset value of R10 000.00 at the commencement of the marriage (his/her “initial value”) and a net asset value of R100 000.00 at dissolution of marriage (his/her “end value”) then the accrual to his/her estate is R90 000.00. If the initial value of the other spouse B was R20 000.00 and hi/her end value R200 000.00, it follows that the accrual to his/her estate is R180 000.00.

Net accrual is calculated by subtracting the “smaller” accrual from the “larger” accrual. In the above example: R180 000-00 – R90 000-00 = R90 000-00. In accordance with the Act, C (the spouse with the smaller accrual) acquires a claim against B (the spouse with the larger accrual) for one half of the net accrual, namely – R45 000.00.

If you do intend to get married, it is well worth your while to consult a reputable attorney, to discuss your particular requirements and ensure that you fully understand the application of the accrual system to your particular situation.

Conclusion

An Ante Nuptial Contract must be signed before the marriage and must be signed in the presence of a notary and two competent witnesses. The notary will then register the contract in the local registry of deeds.  If parties wish to conclude an Ante Nuptial Contract after their marriage it is necessary to launch an application to the High Court.

About the Author

Bertus Preller is a Divorce Attorney in Cape Town and has more than 20 years experience in most sectors of the law and 13 years as a practicing attorney. He specializes in Family law and Divorce Law at Abrahams and Gross Attorneys Inc. in Cape Town. Bertus is also the Family Law expert on Health24.com and on the expert panel of Law24.com and is frequently quoted on Family Law issues in newspapers such as the Sunday Times and Business Times and magazines such as Noseweek, You and Huisgenoot. His clients include artists, celebrities, sports people and high networth individuals. His areas of expertise are Divorce Law, Family Law, Divorce Mediation, Parenting Plans, Parental Responsibilities and Rights, Custody (care and contact) of children, same sex marriages, unmarried fathers rights, domestic violence matters, international divorce law, digital rights, media law and criminal law.

What Divorced Parents Can Learn From Their Children

As a divorce and family law attorney I am mostly involved in the relationships of my clients, whether during the divorce process or thereafter, when the spousal role evolve into a pure parental role. Although the spousal role comes to an end, the parental role of parents last for as long as the children are there. A recent article in the Huffington Post, written by Linda Lipshutz that was quite interesting, the story is below.

“Greg” knew he was in for it when he saw Susan standing at the front door, glaring at him. It was wishful thinking to believe he would come home to peace and quiet. The disagreements between Susan and his daughter, Lindsey had become quite ugly. The two hadn’t liked each other from the start. However, he and Susan had thought that once they were officially married, things would settle down. Sadly, the situation had deteriorated. Lindsey had made it clear she wasn’t interested in meeting her stepmother, even halfway. Susan was hurt and frustrated that her efforts to reach out to Lindsey had not been successful.

Ironically, our children are often more realistic about the challenges facing the remarriage than we are.

Young people may have no qualms about letting us know their objections. In many cases, they’re not happy about all the life changes they’ve endured and have no interest in making things work.

From the young people’s point of view, they didn’t have any say when their parents ended the marriage, and they certainly don’t feel any obligation to happily endorse a parent’s new romance and eventual nuptials. They may believe their feelings have not been sufficiently considered, and are understandably resentful.

Remarrying couples are often so eager for their children to embrace their new lives they become impatient and annoyed when their families don’t jump onboard with enthusiasm. They may push way too hard, further compounding the conflicts. There are many steps, however, that can be taken to ease the adjustment and head off irreparable damage.

The stepfamily is a new entity, which must incorporate the memories and experiences of the prior family constellations. Children, still reeling from the loss of comfort, familiarity and sense of security they may have felt in the original family, will often magnify the upheaval when they enter the new blended family unit.

After a divorce, grieving single parents often reach out to their children in a unique and powerful way. A child might bask in getting his parent’s undivided attention and may develop an elevated sense of importance and control. He may not want to relinquish this exalted position or give the new stepparent any clout.

The children often struggle to sort out a host of conflicting emotions — jealousy that their parent has feelings for this stranger, worry that the original family closeness might be compromised, and concern that accepting the stepparent would be disloyal. And, of course, accepting the new stepparent would require them to relinquish any remaining fantasies of reconciliation.

Now, more than ever, is the time for the adults to remind themselves that they are the adults, and that it will be important for them to take the high road, approaching the situation with empathy and a sense of humor. It is critically important to send a clear, but sensitive message to the young people that they are not being forced to like the new family members. They still remain in control of their feelings but, hopefully, will come to enjoy these relationships in time.

It should be clearly emphasized that the new family must be treated with respect and consideration. If the children sense their parents’ insecurities, they might be tempted to use this discomfort to their advantage. Consciously, or unconsciously, they may try to put a wedge in the new couple’s relationship. It must be crystal clear that they don’t have the power to sabotage the adult relationship.

Although challenging, it’s possible for parents to take the upper hand in rocky situations. First, they must pay attention to their moods and attitudes. Defensiveness and resentment could exacerbate an already tense environment. It takes maturity and inner strength to not take sarcasm and slights personally. Avoiding an edge at stressful times, and steering clear of power struggles can head off misunderstandings. That’s not to say that any form of abuse should be tolerated. Excessive, ugly behavior must be addressed immediately and firmly.

The smart parent will look for opportunities for the children to have relaxed, one-on-one time with the new family members, so they can form relationships, on their own, at their own pace.

It’s not uncommon for a parent to feel guilty that openly relating to the new spouse in a close, loving way will be construed as a betrayal. The self-esteem of the parents and their sense of security with each other will markedly affect their ability to face the challenges. If the new stepparents trust they truly have their partner’s unwavering love and support, it may provide the strength to withstand the hurts, and the motivation to persevere.

Most of us have room in our hearts to simultaneously love different people, in different ways. It is important to remember, though, that the scars are often deep. It can take months and years for the hurts to soften. When adults respond with sensitivity and emotional support, they have taken critical steps to help young people process their losses and become receptive to the changes around them.

Compiled by:

Bertus Preller is a Divorce Attorney in Cape Town and has more than 20 years experience in most sectors of the law and 13 years as a practicing attorney. He specializes in Family law and Divorce Law at Abrahams and Gross Attorneys Inc. in Cape Town. Bertus is also the Family Law expert on Health24.com and on the expert panel of Law24.com and is frequently quoted on Family Law issues in newspapers such as the Sunday Times and Business Times and magazines such as Noseweek, You and Huisgenoot. His clients include artists, celebrities, sports people and high networth individuals. His areas of expertise are Divorce Law, Family Law, Divorce Mediation, Parenting Plans, Parental Responsibilities and Rights, Custody (care and contact) of children, same sex marriages, unmarried fathers rights, domestic violence matters, international divorce law, digital rights, media law and criminal law.

Egskeidings Prokureur gee raad oor egskeidings

Egskeiding Prokureur Kaapstad – Abrahams en Gross Inc.

Bertus Preller is in beheer van die Egskeiding en Familiereg Afdelings by  Abrahams en Gross ‘ n regsfirma in Kaapstad. Die firma is reeds in 1935 gestig. Hy word beskou as een van die top egskeiding prokureurs in Kaapstad en hanteer egskeidings en familie reg sake regoor Suid Afrika.

Wat is belangrik in ‘n egskeiding saak?

Wat belangrik is in enige egskeiding saak is strategie. My benadering tot enige egskeiding of familiereg dispuut is om dit so gou as moontlik te skik, in my klient se guns natuurlik of tot voordeel van beide partye waar ek namens beide van hulle optree. Die voordeel is dat dit dan koste-effektief is en minder emosionele letsels laat. Egskeiding, ongeag hoe vriendskaplik dit is, is altyd vol emosie en nooit maklik nie. Waar daar wel ‘n geleentheid is om te rekonsilieer moet beide partye dit ten alle koste probeer. ‘n Gesonde samelewing is die gevolg van ‘n stabiele gesinslewe en daarom is egskeiding nie altyd die uitweg nie. Ek glo dat baie egskeidings in die eerste plek nooit moes plaasvind nie.

Wat is die koste verbonde aan ‘n egskeiding?

Dit is belangrik om te onderskei tussen “vriendskaplike of onbestrede egskeidings” en “vyandige of bestrede egskeidings”. Waar die partye wel kan ooreenkom oor die verdeling van die bates, onderhoud en by wie die kinders gaan woon na egskeiding en watter vorm van toegang die ander ouer gaan kry is dit soms beter om gebruik te maak van ‘n selfdoen of DIY egskeidingsdiens soos eDivorce. In ‘n Onbestrede egskeiding kan die koste tot so min as R 950 wees indien beide partye gebruik maak van’ n aanlyn-doen-dit-self, of DIY egskeidingsdiens soos eDivorce, http://www.edivorce.co.za.  Wanneer partye gebruik maak van ‘n prokureur kan dit enigiets van R4500 af kos. Regskoste kan wissel na gelang van die kompleksiteit van ‘n egskeiding saak.

Hoe lank neem ‘n onbestrede egskeiding?

‘n Onbestrede egskeiding kan gefinaliseer word binne ‘n paar weke. Afhangende van jou prokureur kan dit enigiets neem van 3 tot 6 weke. In die hantering van egskeidingsaangeleenthede, doen ons gewoonlik ons bes om dit te probeer afhandel sou gou moontlik en benader ons elke saak om die bes moontlike resultaat tot verkry. Groot omstrede egskeiding aangeleenthede, waar meer bates op die spel is, kos ongetwyfeld meer en kan baie tydrowend wees.

Hoe lank neem ‘n bestrede egskeiding?

‘n Bestrede egskeiding kan tot 3 jaar of selfs langer neem om af te handel en die koste daaraan verbonde kan honderde duisende rande beloop.

Waarop is jy geregtig as jy binne gemeenskap of buite gemeenskap van goedere getroud is?

Indien jy getroud is binne gemeenskap van goedere, is jy geregtig op 50% van die gemeenskaplike boedel en as jy getroud is buite gemeenskap van goedere met die aanwasbedeling, is jy geregtig op die helfte van die verskil van jou en jou gade se aanwas, indien sy aanwas groter was as joune. As jy getroud is buite gemeenskap van goedere sonder die aanwasbedeling voor 1 November 1984, sal jy geregtig wees om te vra vir ‘n herverdeling van bates, wat behels dat jy in staat kan wees om 50% van die gesamentlike bates op te eis, maar indien jy getroud is buite gemeenskap van goedere sonder die aanwasbedeling na 1 November 1984 sal jy slegs kan eis vir onderhoud.

Wanneer is jy geregtig op onderhoud?

Daar is verskeie faktore wat in aanmerking geneem moet word om te bepaal of jy geregtig sal wees op lewenslange onderhoud. Jy kan onder sekere omstandighede ook rehabiliterende onderhoud eis. Rehabiliterende onderhoud is waar een gade die ander vir ‘n tydperk betaal, bv. vir drie jaar of meer.

Ek het nie geld om te skei nie, wat nou?

Jy kan ‘n hof aansoek bring hangende die finalisering van die egskeiding om tussentydse onderhoud te verkry, terwyl die egskeiding in die proses is, jy kan jy ook in so’ n aansoek eis dat jou gade ‘n bydrae maak aan jou regskoste.

Watter raad kan jy vir vrouens gee wat wil skei?

  • Kry soveel finansiële inligting oor jou eggenoot moontlik, maak afskrifte van al die bankstate, kredietkaart state, sowel as ‘n skedule van al die bates en laste, bronne van inkomste, ens.
  • Stel ‘n gedetailleerde begroting van jou huidige maandelikse uitgawes en inkomste op. Vir jou en jou kinders maak voorsiening vir toekomstige uitgawes.
  • Jy kan selfs aandring op die sessie van’ n versekeringspolis op jou gade se lewe in die geval dat hy/sy gestremd raak of sterf om jou onderhoud te verseker.
  • Poog te alle tye om aan te bly in die gesamentlike woning (as dit naby aan die kinders se skool of jou werk is). Die feit dat die kinders bly in die omgewing waaraan hulle gewoont is sal meer stabiliteit teweeg bring.
  • Onthou dat jy nie noodwendig altyd die oordragkoste hoef te betaal vir ‘n eiendom wat aan jou oorgedra word tydens jou egskeiding nie. Jy kan verskeie opsies met betrekking tot die eiendom uit oefen, byvoorbeeld deur dit te behou en jou gade se gedeelte oor te dra op jou naam of dit te verkoop en die netto wins te verdeel ens.
  • Maak seker dat jou egskeiding Skikkingsooreenkoms ‘n bepaling het wat tot gevolg het dat jy beslag kan le op jou eggenote se salaris in geval hy nie onderhoud betaal nie.
  • Sorg dat jou egskeiding Skikkingsooreenkoms so opgestel word om ‘n deel van enige bates te bekom in die toekoms wat jou eggenoot dalk weggesteek het, en waarvan jy nie bewus is op datum van egskeiding nie.
  • Moenie skik vir minder as waarop jy geregtig is nie, baie vroue neem eenvoudig die pad uit as gevolg van emosionele druk. Onthou dat egskeiding altyd ‘n sake-besluit is en die besluite wat jy nou maak sal ‘n impak jare later in jou lewe he.
  • Egskeiding kan baie frustrerend en emosioneel wees en dit neem tyd en strategiese beplanning. Moenie van prokureurs verander in die proses bloot as gevolg van jou eie frustrasie nie.
  • Onthou dat jou ex se bates ook insluit aandeelhoudings in maatskappye, aftree-fondse, pensioenfondse en selfs belasting terugbetalings.
  • Dink met jou kop en nie met jou hart nie.
  • Onthou om jou testament te verander binnekort na die egskeiding.

Bertus Preller is ‘n egskeidings prokureur in Kaapstad. Hy spesialiseer in egskeidings en familiereg sake by Abrahams en Gross Ing en is ook die Familiereg kenner by die Health24.com forum, Co-Parenting forum en op die deskundiges paneel van Law24.com. Hy word dikwels aangehaal in koerante soos die Sunday Times, Sunday Tribune, Business Times, asook tydskrifte soos Noseweek, Huisgenoot en You aangehaal oor familiereg en egskeidings. Hy spesialiseer in egskeiding, familiereg, mediasie, ouerskap planne, ouerlike verantwoordelikhede, bewaring sorg en kontak van kinders, ongetroude vader regte, huishoudelike geweld sake, interdikte en internasionale egskeidings.

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